• 2. “The Shopping Mall” (no offense!): It might seems rude to consider a friendship as a Shopping Mall but unfortunately that’s the way it sometimes it! In that Type of relationship no matter how valuable or desirable it really is, that’s always not the only option. Consider a very great shopping mall that provides all you need and you are a client who has enough money and an unsatisfiable need of whatever that mall could provide you with. But still no matter how great that mall is, that’s neither the only mall you can go, nor you are the only great client that mall could ever have. It’s not the matter of how many; it’s that you have a need for something –even a holy need! - And you just want to satisfy it. Even if you look at your friendship as an opportunity to be better person, help someone, make someone happy, be useful, or care, or love, or ... It’s still the need that you are thinking of. And even no matter how unselfish and kind you might be, you still can find even more and more great way to satisfy that need. You just need and like the relation not the person.

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Here we are not at the position of judging you! but I guess somehow considering a tool as your goal is not a very good option, I mean you can become a painter just by painting, all you have to do is feeling an believing and understand why it’s good to be a painter and how a painter is and more important what you actually want and will get from that- loving just for the greatness of love, helping just for the greatness of a person who helps, and ... is really great if they are what you really want from your life and time. Believe me, correct could be the one you believe, and they way that really takes you that way
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